"The only cure for grief is to grieve."
Earl Grollman.
When we lose somebody or something - we grieve. Grief is a natural emotion of the transition, the build-in function in our psyche. It doesn't matter how unpleasant or unbearable the Grief is; it is the unavoidable state. We need to grieve before accepting a new chapter of our life and moving on.
How long or short is it OK to grieve? It depends on many factors, but the psychologists suggest that if the state of Grief is still severe after half of the year or longer, it is time to get professional help: find a psychologist or a grief consultant, a trauma therapist, or even a psychiatrist.
Body Talk has its approach to helping a client heal from Grief.
Let's look at two ways when people need help to deal with Grief:
The first case - the person forces themself to move on from the loss too fast by simply not allowing them to feel anything. Instead of crying out the sorrow, they suppress it deep inside themselves. Not only insomnia or depression can be the result of such an interruption of the "healing grief process," but the severe physical diseases such as pneumonia or chronic inflammation in the body.
In another case - when people hold on to their Grief for years (usually out of guilt), the bowel problems like IBS or constipation can develop; but the most important people who cannot let go of the Grief - cannot move on and live their life fully. They fulfill themselves with regrets and pain; they cannot allow the potential of the future to unfold before them cause they focus on the past.
From traditional Chinese medicine, Grief is the natural emotion that generates in the lungs and helps us separate ourselves from experience the healthy way - honor it, learn from it, and move on with our lives. The Large intestines help to let go of processed experiences and emotions.
Body Talk seeks to bring to awareness ( if a person is ready to do so, usually on the subconscious level) the story of the Grief and help Lungs and Guts do their job, which would bring the healing on a physical and psychological level.
One more thing on the Grief: we mourn when we lose somebody or something, but we forget to grieve for ourselves. Sometimes we have to say goodbye to our most sacred desires or opportunities. We cannot just bury it and forget about it as a useless burden. We have to honor it with Grief and let it go with the light sorrow in our hearts; otherwise, it will come back to us as a hurtful regret causing us sickness and sadness later in life.
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